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Their thoughts aren't about solving a "vocations shortage."
Rather, their mind-sets are focused on how to serve God and
community. That is what has led these four women - of varying
ages and backgrounds - into pursuing the call to religious
life. This week, The Tidings profiles four women to see how
responding to the particular call in their lives has affected
them.
Sylvia
Diaz
Unlike many of her peers, Sylvia Diaz didn't attend Catholic
schools or spend much time around religious sisters in her
youth. Her first memories of nuns came from her cousin who
talked endlessly about their good nature and their good works.
At 12 years old, Diaz told her mother she wanted to be a
nun --- despite never really having spent time around them.
But growing up in Guatemala, Diaz's mother encouraged her
daughter to concentrate on finding a career that would bring
the family money. "We came from a very poor family," says
Diaz, whose dream was put on hold.
Three decades ago, Diaz' family moved to the Reno area,
she found a job and started life anew --- only to have a car
accident shake up her world. "That accident made me reevaluate
what was important to me," she says. "It was a spiritual awakening."
It led her to attend retreats with the Sisters of St. Joseph
of Carondelet in the Bay area where she found the community
a place she needed and wanted to be.
Today, the 50-year-old Diaz has been a candidate for the
religious community for two years. She has been living with
three sisters of St. Joseph in a house in Sherman Oaks. Diaz
continues her administrative work in Pacoima at Soledad Enrichment
Action, Inc., a charter school community project that targets
youth at risk, giving them education, counseling and support.
Living in a communal setting with the sisters changed Diaz's
preconceived notions about religious life as "super holy"
people. "They are real people with good days and bad days,"
she says. "They accept me as I am and give me such an optimistic
outlook. They are very real."
The hardest part about religious life? "Cutting back on
expenses," she says. "I am starting to live my vow of poverty
and have to realize the difference between buying something
I want versus something I need."
Overall, Diaz finds a peace and
purpose with the sisters. "It makes me realize how many good
things I can do." She hopes one day to work in Latino community
parishes. "I am preparing for that but am open to where the
Spirit calls."
Lilly
Fitzpatrick
Lilly Fitzpatrick came to explore religious communities quite
by accident. Literally.
In her prior life, Fitzpatrick managed real estate in the
Bay Area, handling the day-to-day activities of large shopping
centers and commercial buildings in San Francisco and San
Jose.
Noting an advertisement about an upcoming Lenten retreat
that offered quiet reflection, Fitzpatrick signed up - only
to find out later that that retreat took place a week earlier.
The retreat Fitzpatrick signed up for was for people interested
in religious life.
"There was a mistake in the bulletin," says Fitzpatrick
who thought, "Why not?" when she was asked to confirm her
attendance.
Fitzpatrick went to the retreat and came back "feeling so
different" about religious life. "Something shifted inside,"
she says. "I wanted to figure out what was going on in my
heart."
Wanting to explore religious life more, Fitzpatrick prayed
for some kind of sign. It came in the form of a bumper sticker
that instructed, "Don't Die Wondering." Five months from her
first retreat, Fitzpatrick joined the community.
Today, Fitzpatrick lives with 11 other fully professed Dominican
Sisters of San Jose at Flintridge Sacred Heart Academy. She's
been with the community for nearly four years, having taken
her first vows and preparing for her final vows in 2008.
Just turned 40, Fitzpatrick is enrolled at Glendale Community
College studying for her associate of arts degree. Prior to
that, she was with the religious community in the Bay Area
in a formation program where she also worked at local soup
kitchens and schools.
The revolving tasks didn't faze Fitzpatrick, whose list
of jobs include managing real estate, teaching English in
Japan, working with homeless teenagers in New York City, and
running a sporting goods store in Hawaii.
Communal living is everything Fitzpatrick expected it to
be. "I had no great surprises or adjustments," she says. "I
am very realistic and understand that you meet the same kind
of people inside and outside a convent."
Advice Fitzpatrick could give to anyone considering religious
life would be simple: "Try it, you might like it."
Elizabeth
Lopez
Elizabeth "Lisa" Lopez has been straddling two worlds.
During the week, she's a successful attorney who tends to
her clients, prepares for upcoming trials and enjoys her own
home in Lake Balboa in Orange County. But on weekends she
drives to downtown Los Angeles, where she is learning what
it means to be a member of a religious community.
"I'm going to be there full-time in September," says Lopez,
44. "Right now, I'm winding down my practice."
Entering the Sisters of Social Service in the fall, Lopez
will put her legal mind to rest and concentrate on formation
classes. Her material possessions are slowly being sold, given
away or stored for future use. The downsizing process has
shown Lopez "how much you can get wrapped up in things. We
often think that success comes from what we own."
Lopez grew up in Hacienda Heights and moved later with her
family to Anaheim Hills. Joining a religious community was
something she felt like doing since she was seven years old,
but she resisted the calling for years. "I kept thinking if
I did other things, I could quiet that voice," she says.
Active in her parishes, Lopez has taught confirmation, been
a eucharistic minister and liturgist. Active in youth ministry,
she was dramatically inspired by St. Joseph Sister Helen Prejean's
message at the Religious Education Congress three years ago.
"It was like the voice told me it was time to 'bump it up
a notch,'" recalls Lopez. "I needed to bring myself up to
the next level [of service]."
Indeed, being involved with youth ministry, Lopez had many
contacts and connections with members of religious communities.
She scouted the territory and said that when she met the Sisters
of Social Service, she "felt like I came home. I immediately
knew this is where I belonged."
Still, there were hurdles to cross. In discernment, Lopez
and fellow classmates had many misconceptions about sisterhood.
"We were asking questions like, 'Can we wear make-up?' 'Can
we go out dancing?' and 'Can we drink?'" she says. "The sisters
just laughed and told us that life does not end when you join.
Just be who you are. We accept you."
With fall approaching, Lopez sizes
up her new life. "For me, being able to do God's work without
having to worry about overhead and the bottom line is truly
exciting," she says.
Nicole
De Leon
When she was a little girl, Nicole De Leon had a cassette
player and would constantly play a tape of children's religious
songs, including one called "Heroes and Saints."
The refrain went, "Who's going to be a hero for our Lord?"
to which De Leon used to holler, "I want to be God's hero!"
"I never made the connection that that would mean religious
life," says the 23-year-old with a laugh. "I'm sure I drove
my parents crazy with that song."
Today, De Leon is making her parents proud --- she's been
living for the past year and a half with the Sisters of Notre
Dame in a house in Long Beach, waiting for the day when she,
too, will be a fully professed sister.
"I love that my parents have been so welcomed by the sisters,"
says De Leon who graduated from Mater Dei High School in Santa
Ana and points to the sisters there as inspirational. "My
parents realize that they aren't losing a daughter, but gaining
a whole community of support."
A
full-time student at Long Beach Community College, De Leon
is also in a formation program, works with her spiritual director
and teaches religious education at nearby St. Cornelius Church.
It's a lot of juggling, she admits, but well worth it.
An only child, De Leon says that one of the biggest challenges
of living in a communal setting is discovering where she fits
in. "You know your role with your family, but here, I had
to find my role," she says, explaining that since living with
the community, she's learning how to cook. Her favorite dish:
pasta with pesto sauce.
Because she's a young person herself, De Leon sees her potential
ministry to be with youth. As a former assistant youth minister
at her home parish, De Leon enjoys the stimulating outlook
of today's youth.
"They are refreshing because they are confident they can
do anything," she says. "They want to know why the world is
the way it is and how they can make a difference. We have
to encourage that kind of thinking. I never want to lose that
attitude in myself."
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