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"Nothing can be more useful to a man than a determination
not to be hurried." Thoreau wrote that and it's not meant
as something trivial.
We hurry too much, pure and simple. As Henri Nouwen describes
it: "One of the most obvious characteristics of our daily
lives is that we are busy. We experience our days as filled
with things to do, people to meet, projects to finish, letters
to write, calls to make, and appointments to keep. Our lives
often seem like overpacked suitcases bursting at the seams.
It fact, we are almost always aware of being behind schedule.
There is a nagging sense that there are unfinished tasks,
unfulfilled promises, unrealized proposals. There is always
something else that we should have remembered, done, or said.
There are always people we did not speak to, write to, or
visit. Thus, although we are very busy, we also have a lingering
feeling of never really fulfilling our obligation." We are
always hurrying.
What's wrong with hurrying? Any doctor, police officer,
spiritual director, or over-worked mother, can answer that:
Hurrying causes tension, high blood pressure, accidents, and
robs us of the simple capacity to be in the moment.
Our lives
often seem like overpacked suitcases bursting at the
seams.
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But spiritual writers take this further. They see hurry
as an obstacle to spiritual growth. Donald Nicholl, for example,
says "hurry is a form of violence exercised upon time," an
attempt, as it were, to make God's time our own time, our
private property. What he and others suggest is that, in hurrying,
we exercise a form of greed and gluttony? How so?
Too often we have a rather simplistic notion of greed and
gluttony. We imagine greed, for example, as hoarding money
and possessions, as being selfish, hard-hearted, like Scrooge
in the Dicken's Christmas tale. Indeed, that kind of greed
exists, though it's not the prerogative of many.
For most of us, greed takes a different, more subtle form.
More than money, we hoard experience. We try to drink in the
world, all of it. We would like to travel to every place,
see everything, feel every sensation, not miss out on anything.
We constantly hurry what we're doing so as to be available
to do something else. We try to juggle too many things at
the same time precisely because we want too many things. The
possessions we really want are experience, knowledge, sensation,
achievement, status. We're greedy in a way Scrooge never was.
Gluttony works essentially the same. For most of us, the
urge to consume is not so much about food or drink, but about
experience. Our propensity to overeat (particularly in an
age that is so sensitive to health and fashion) generally
has little to do with food and infinitely more to do with
other kinds of consumption. We are always in a hurry because
we are forever restless to taste more of life.
It's this kind of hurry, subtly driven by greed and gluttony,
that can be a form of violence exercised upon time and can
constitute an obstacle to holiness.
But there are other kinds of hurry that come from simple
circumstance and duty. Almost everyone of us, at least during
our working years, have too many things to do: Daily, we struggle
to juggle the demands of relationships, family, work, school,
church, child-care, shopping, attention to health, concern
for appearance, housework, preparing meals, rent and mortgage
payments, car payments, commuting to and from work, bus schedules,
unwanted accidents, unforeseen interruptions, illnesses, and
countless other things that eat up more time than is seemingly
available.
The
Gospels tell us that even Jesus was so busy at times that
he didn't have time to eat. That's not surprising. Robert
Moore once said that the mark of a true adult is that "he
or she does what it takes." Sometimes that means being stretched
to the limit, being over-extended, having to juggle too many
things all at once, driving faster than we'd like, working
to the point of exhaustion, even as there is still more that
we should ideally be doing.
There's a hurriedness that doesn't come from greed or gluttony
and that can't be dismissed with the simplistic judgment:
"That's what she gets for trying to have it all!" Sometimes
we have to hurry just to make do, and simple circumstance
and duty eat up every available minute of our time. That's
not necessarily an obstacle to holiness, but can be one of
its paths.
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Oblate of Mary Immaculate Father Ronald Rolheiser is a
specialist in the field of spirituality and systematic theology.
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